Being single has advantages...

Why is being single always talked about like it’s a problem? Why do people act like singlehood is something to escape from?

“You’re so kind, funny, attractive, and have great morals—why are you STILL single?” I hear this constantly, especially when I show up solo to yet another group dinner. But here’s the thing—being single is a choice. Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I’m available. I’m happy with myself, and that confidence you admire? It comes from self-love.

It’s 2020—society no longer expects us to be married before 30. Women are building careers, becoming entrepreneurs (or influencers), and focusing on their own paths. There’s no rush. And if that so-called ticking clock ever runs out of battery? Well, there are always other options!

The Perks of Being Single

• Personal Growth & Independence – There’s something powerful about enjoying your own company. Solitude can be liberating and transformative.

• Stronger Friendships – You have more time to connect with friends, deepen relationships, and build an amazing support network.

• Confidence Booster – Being single pushes you out of your comfort zone. Facing challenges solo, walking into a crowded room alone—it all builds resilience and self-assurance.

• Spontaneity & Freedom – Fancy a last-minute trip? Want to change plans on a whim? No problem. You answer only to yourself.

• Ultimate Comfort – No sharing the bed. No negotiating over blankets. Pure, uninterrupted sleep.

• Self-Discovery – This is your time to figure out what truly matters to you—your values, your needs, your wants. You’ll even have some hilarious lightbulb moments, like realizing that sometimes, your bad mood was just you annoying yourself (oops, sorry ex!).

• Better Networking & Social Skills – You step outside your usual circles, meet new people, and engage in fresh conversations, broadening your perspectives.

• No Compromises, Just You – Every decision is yours. No checking in, no negotiations—just pure freedom to live life on your terms.

• A Peaceful Mind – Relationships require emotional energy. Being single allows you to focus fully on yourself, recharge, and prioritize your own well-being.

Being single isn’t a waiting period—it’s an opportunity. Enjoy it!

Newsflash: Not all singles are searching for a partner! Being single isn’t a waiting game—it’s just a different path from being in a relationship. The longer you embrace single life, the more you realise how fulfilling, peaceful, and genuinely happy it can be. So if someone’s going to change that, they’d better be pretty exceptional!

How to Be Single: Essentials for Thriving

• A Support Network – Surround yourself with friends who bring different qualities to your life. Variety keeps things interesting.

• An Open Mind – You don’t know everything or everyone. Stay open to new experiences and people.

• An Honest Friend – Someone who tells you what you need to hear. Like my friend Dan*, who bluntly reminds me, "You HAVE to come out tonight—skipping the last two times was boring. Keep this up, and you may as well buy five cats."

• Self-Love & Purpose – Set small, realistic goals that give you direction. Try a new class, take up a short course, or simply say hello to that stranger you pass every day.

• A Therapist – Helpful for everyone, whether single or in a relationship.

• Hobbies You Enjoy – Pilates, barre, running, walking—whatever keeps you engaged and happy.

• An Emergency Fun Fund – Whenever life feels dull, spend a little on yourself. Go out for dinner, buy a new outfit, take a spontaneous day trip, or grab a drink with a friend. Stash some cash for moments like this.

• Self-Confidence – This comes from truly knowing and loving who you are.

• A Go-To Sexy Outfit – For all those last-minute invites you’ll be saying yes to.

• A Positive Mindset – Essential for everyone, no matter their relationship status.

• A Balanced Lifestyle – You need structure, fun, goals, purpose, and exercise to truly thrive.

With the above things in hand, you're in a good place! Keep perspective, the average female lives to age 86, lets say you're 32 and you meet your ideal man this year that is 54 years with him! Someone will catch your vibe and you will love theirs, be patient.

Single status is temporary—it changes with your journey. If a relationship is what you want, it will come. Until then, embrace being beautifully, temporarily, and selfishly single! And if you're feeling down, remember—people break up every day. Your ideal man might be on his way to singlehood right now!

Love is love, this article may use female/male pronouns however the advice applies to all sexual orientations and gender identities.

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