What to do after a BREAK UP

It's often said that hitting rock bottom means you're in a bad place. But really, it depends on what you're made of, doesn't it? Just like a ball slammed into the ground, the harder it falls, the higher it bounces back. I like to think of ourselves as being like tennis balls—resilient, bouncy, and built to bounce back stronger each time we hit the floor.

Breaking up hurts no matter what you do. As soon as the break up is said out loud, take action, read more about how to break up. Then follow these golden rules of behaviour.

How to Handle a Breakup:

💔 Take a break from social media. Give yourself some time to process the news before sharing it online or posting selfies. Allow both of you the space to come to terms with the situation and respect each other's pain.

💔 Keep the details of your relationship private. It's in poor taste to reveal secrets or intimate moments shared during your time together.

💔 Recognize that your emotions may be influencing your actions, rather than logical thinking. Be aware of this and give yourself time to process.

💔 Act with grace. This period is an opportunity to reflect on your character and how you handle challenges. Keep your composure, manage your emotions, and find healthy ways to release your energy.

💔 Your phone isn’t your friend right now. Try to avoid carrying it with you everywhere—start small, like leaving it in the bathroom or using airplane mode while you exercise.

💔 Avoid confiding in his friends or family. Lean on your own support network, and refrain from involving mutual friends or family in the breakup.

💔 Stick to a regular exercise routine, listen to music, and work on breaking any negative thought patterns. Use physical activity to boost your mood and regain a sense of positivity.

💔 Plan a weekend getaway with a close friend. This will provide you with a change of scenery, the opportunity to process your emotions in private, and support from someone who cares.

💔 Don’t attempt to seduce or see them. The breakup has been made, and it’s important to honior the decision and move forward.

💔 Consider seeking counselling to help you navigate your new single life and address any lingering emotional challenges from the relationship.

💔 Don’t be hard on yourself for how you feel or act when you’re alone. Understand that this is a temporary phase and that you’re doing the best you can.

💔 Journal your thoughts or send yourself texts to process the breakup—don’t reach out to him. It’s time to face the reality that it’s over and begin the healing process.. 

You aren't broken even thought it feels that way. What is broken in a relationship break up? The person or the heart? Neither - the relationship.  Two whole people with two whole hearts remain, you will repair and move on so it is the relationship that is broken.

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"Breaking up is like getting stitches without painkillers, each stitch excruciating pain, yet vital to closing up the wound. "

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