Our approach to relationships is shaped by what we observe in our childhood homes, particularly how our parents interacted. These early experiences deeply influence how we navigate our own relationships. Yet, we’re never formally taught how to communicate effectively, be emotionally responsible, or maintain a healthy partnership—we simply dive into dating, often as teenagers, and figure it out as we go.

A strong relationship thrives on balance—between time together, personal space, family, work, exercise, social life, and, most importantly, open and honest communication.

Be Clear About What You Want

Subtle hints and passive comments won’t get you what you need—he’s not a mind-reader. If you want attention, say so. If you have a restaurant in mind, tell him. If you’d rather not see his mate, speak up. The same goes for gifts—if there’s something specific you want, let him know. Open communication is key, and instead of making assumptions, just ask.

Sunday Check-Ins

Make Sundays a time to connect and plan for the week ahead. Ask your partner about their schedule and share yours. This simple habit helps you align plans, set date nights, and avoid last-minute surprises. If one of you has a night out or a work trip, the other can plan their own activities or schedule some well-deserved self-care.

Text for Logistics, Talk for Communication

Use texting for quick updates, not deep conversations. Keep texts for things like scheduling, check-ins, or the occasional flirty message—but when it comes to important discussions or emotions, save it for an actual conversation. Some things are just better said face-to-face.

Stay Attractive (Beyond the Bedroom)

This isn’t just about being sexy in a physical way—it’s about maintaining a level of mystery and respect in your relationship. Some things just don’t need to be shared. Let your partner know what you prefer to keep private, and ask them the same. For example, no one needs to see their partner on the toilet, clipping nails, or picking their nose. Comfort is great, but a little personal space keeps the attraction alive. (And yes, don’t be surprised if he suggests more pedicures—men have a weird thing about feet.)

It’s Not What You Fight About, But How You Fight

Arguments happen because two people see things differently, but the way you handle them is what truly matters. Here’s the key:

• Don’t yell, insult, or throw out words you’ll regret.

• Avoid blaming language—use “I feel” statements instead of “You always” accusations.

• Take a break if emotions are running too high; revisiting the issue later often leads to better outcomes.

• The goal isn’t to “win” an argument—it’s to resolve it.

Pride won’t fix a problem, but love and communication will.

Switch Up Conversations

Break the routine—ask open-ended questions instead of the same old "How was your day?" to spark deeper connections. Also, don’t dwell on negativity. Vent, listen, support, but then shift the mood by focusing on something positive.

Prioritise Being Lovers

Yes, you wear many hats—parent, friend, teammate—but at the core, you're partners first. Treat each other as equals, not as a parent, boss, or subordinate. Keep love at the forefront, respect each other’s roles, and always nurture each other’s love language.

Love is love, this article may use female/male pronouns however the advice applies to all sexual orientations and gender identities.

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