How to handle REJECTION

Rejection stings. It can trigger a mix of emotions—anger, embarrassment, sadness, or even a sense of foolishness. Science has shown that emotional pain activates the same areas of the brain as physical pain, meaning rejection literally feels like a hit. And in a way, it is—a blow to the ego.

What is Rejection?

Definition: The act of refusing to accept, use, or believe someone or something, and/or the act of not giving someone the love and attention they seek. (Cambridge Dictionary)

At some point, you will experience rejection—it’s an inevitable part of life. And while it may feel deeply personal, it’s ultimately out of your control. Just as you have the right to turn down a drink, decline a date, or end a relationship, others have that same right. We all give and receive rejection throughout life.

Why Does Rejection Hurt So Much?

As social beings, humans thrive on connection. We have an innate need to feel valued, wanted, and accepted. Rejection disrupts this sense of belonging, leaving us feeling unsettled and disconnected.

When it comes to love, rejection feels even more personal. It often leads to harsh self-criticism—we start picking apart our flaws, bad habits, and past mistakes, searching for reasons why we weren’t "good enough." We make ourselves feel worse before we begin to heal and move forward.

How to Cope with Rejection

The key to handling rejection is building healthy self-esteem. When you have a strong sense of self-worth, you’re more resilient in the face of emotional challenges. Your response to rejection is shaped by your past experiences, attachment style, and emotional intelligence. Strengthening these areas can help you process rejection in a healthier, more balanced way.

Remember: Rejection doesn’t define you. It’s simply a redirection towards something or someone better suited for you. Know your worth and keep moving forward.

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